Do You Will To Have A Painful Destiny?

Isabel Archer is the towering figure of the Portrait of a Lady. Henry James is the author of the novel. He has very beautifully portrayed the curving journey of a young woman's wish to live free. She thinks that she is powerful to cut the chains of paternity. Set in the 1870's it tells us how Isabel has a dreamlike quality of being mysteriously attractive and undoubtedly intelligent. Since the beginning, we see her in a meditative mood as if she is reflecting over something serious and that was the marriage proposal with Lord Warburton. If you have seen the movie, Nicole Kidman enacts the role and it makes us easier for us to understand. There are tears in her eyes but she does not let them fall.

 It is symbolic. Another charming young man Casper Goodwood who is a bit fiercer in the aspect of persuasion is proposing her. Isabel rejects both of them. This woman has large ideas about her life, and she wants to make them without men's aid. Going ahead through the novel, we find that she has charmed her cousin Ralph Touchett as well. He is a sick man and is hopelessly in love with her but meets a negative fate. Isabel does not do this on purpose but the playwright has tried to show the feminine perspective through the hands of men. Isabel believes in love, but she also believes in struggles and painful life. When approached by Lord Warburton, she politely declines his proposal by saying that she likes him but cannot marry. He is eager to know the reason but she remains silent.

Isabel is the live example of what a woman hopes and desires to live a liberal life. Going out in the world and exploring people is her core wish. She wants to take risks and win over dangerous situations. Over here, Archer believes that her life is going to be painful and miserable. This does not mean that she is thinking of committing suicide. This is the harsh fact of life but everyone chooses to ignore it. The wise readers will react to Isabel as being immature and a naysayer, but I believe it is her choice to live this way. She does not believe in hearts and flowers but pain and endurance. Some readers have vehemently declined her thoughts by saying she has a weird perspective of being miserable. I say if your life imparts you pain it also renders a shelter a shoulder to burden all your tears. Isabel is wandering to find that shoulder. She does not want to compromise on her fate.

 Our female protagonist sincerely believes that she will be unhappy and her destiny will let her have the novel experiences. Marital chains will only stop her from having her slice of life and she strongly opposes this fact. Her dearest friend Henrietta Stackpole meets her in London and is very surprised by her deviant attitude. She was even more shocked to realise that Archer rejected Warburton. Henrietta is a reporter by profession and is a symbol of feminism in those days. Henrietta misjudges the noble people's sentiments and calls Casper Goodwood "I have never seen an ugly man look so handsome", when he talked about his wish of marrying Isabel. Ralph on the other hand mixes with Henrietta and demands to know why Isabel refused Warburton. He practically blackmailed her to know but she gives a rational answer. He knows Isabel very well and wants to save her from her fate but cannot do anything as he is about to die. The playwright has made him a spectator as he looks on to Isabel's life.

James has candidly divulged into a female's perspective about life, love, and marriage. Through the medium of Casper Goodwood, he shows us the respective mannerisms of single and married women. They have a code of conduct to follow. The lines, "An unmarried woman- a girl of your age- isn't independent. There are all sorts of things she can't do. She's hampered at every step." These lines show the open ascendancy of the person. Then the fact of allowing her to have happiness and dangers is another patriarchal morsel that he wants to feed her on. This is exactly what Isabel dislikes but her fate takes an ugly turn as she marries Gilbert Osmond the archetypal villain with his partner Madame Merle and an innocent daughter.

In real lives women like Isabel are misjudged by various reasons. Just because they choose to live free and take risks they are mistaken for going against the moral ethics set by the patronizing male society. When will we learn that all a woman wants is to live happy whether by her own or with her loved ones.

3 Books Every Woman Should Read

Three books have significantly made my life better as a young woman today. After trying nearly every birth control (with success I might add), but wanting to serve my body better than to make it believe it's already pregnant through hormones for more than 6 years, I found the perfect birth control method and I can't believe it's not taught to women around the country on a regular basis. It's free and effective. It's fertility charting. The next two are harder pills to swallow because they are about men and money, two subjects some of us women can't seem to seduce. Tell-it-like-it-is authors quickly demystify these two topics and give you the wisdom to learn from your history and move beyond where you've been.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility, The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health by Toni Weschler

Knowing your body through fertility charting can help you avoid pregnancy, promote pregnancy, detect problems early and possibly solve them, and tell you when your periods will come so you can plan around them if they affect you poorly. This information has been lost to the shift in popularity towards hormonal birth control methods, but remains one of the best, if not best of them all! For those many women who have been trying to conceive without success, clues to what is going on very well could be within your chart. This book is cleverly written half toward those preventing and the last half toward those trying to conceive, hence the name Taking Charge Of Your Fertility in favor of what you want. 

In a time religious communities are the only teaching organizations of this method anymore, this book allows a solitary person to relearn sex education, the science behind your body's reproduction, and a method that takes all the natural family planning practices into consideration for the most accurate information. As a method, it's just as effective as most hormonal birth control methods when used properly and as a book, you'll have no excuse for not using it properly! In friendly language, the book is a great reference to keep on your shelf even after you've learned to chart.

Money, A Memoir: Women, Emotions, and Cash by Liz Perle

We cannot pretend that women and money are equal to that of men and money. Women as a gender are given far less information regarding money than men are in their lifetimes. This is due to a long history of women not making their own money and was not that long ago. Women, even after they've entered the workplace and even conquered many of fields, have different attitudes about money than men. They approach pay negotiation, spending, conversations about money with friends, and nearly every other aspect about money differently than men do. 

Liz Perle in her book Money, A Memoir fully explains our story to us. What happened to our relationships, economy, personal aspirations and emotions when women were allowed to work? She explains how we are conditioned differently than men and gives us the wisdom we probably missed out on, but our brother didn't. This book is just the adjustment needed to tackle financial goals and learn more responsibility regarding the topic. It's not as feminist as it sounds. It's a real side of the history of our economy written from a female perspective that's not told often enough. Being in the know of this information can change the trajectory of your life.

He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Greg Behrendt was a script consultant for the hit show Sex In The City and the concept for He's Just Not That Into You was conceived from an episode. Too many otherwise smart women are making excuses for men's behavior that plainly shows they are just not that into you! Greg and Liz explain men are not complicated, but rarely have the huevos to tell a girl straight that they don't feel the same way. In a Dear Abby type platform, women's letters fill the pages of this book telling stories we've at least heard or told ourselves, and ask the same questions we've asked ourselves, our friends, and God. The answer, bluntly, is usually "he's just not that into you". It will make you re-think your whole life and want to buy a copy for a friend! Getting the truth bomb from Greg, a man unafraid, liberates you from ever tolerating less than honesty and/or admiration again. Every woman who has to suffer dating in the world today has got to get their ringless hands a copy of this book!

Ivy Brooks works as a copywriter, author and small business consultant from her home in Las Vegas, Nevada. She enjoys expanding her knowledge and writing portfolio to best accommodate her clients in reaching their business and personal goals. Her topics of interest span motherhood, relationships, spirituality, homemaking, food and bushcraft among many other things. She welcomes you to contact her for a free consultation about your current project or business. Her email is thecopywritertoknow@gmail.com

10 Must-Read Pregnancy Books For Expecting Moms

Are you a mom-to-be? Are you looking for the best pregnancy books online? Well, you have stumbled upon the right place. You don't need to step out or get confused with numerous pregnancy books at a store - we have handpicked the best ones for you! These books will give you a vivid guideline on pregnancy, and enhance the blissful emotion of motherhood.

Top Pregnancy Books to choose from:

The Pregnant Body:

This book is a detailed guide on the entire process of pregnancy. It starts from the evolution and goes through the physiology of both the reproductive system of men and women. It tells you about DNA, genes and the mysteries of inheritance. You will know how your baby develops from the fetus and how it gradually grows. You will also know how your body adapts to the change. With perfect illustrations and artwork, you can feel every bit of your current situation, through written and pictorial descriptions.

Pregnant Day by Day:

This is a perfect guide for expecting mothers to specifically know the development of their baby, at every stage. It is one of the perfect pregnancy books to know day-to-day details, of how your baby is growing in you!

Mayo Clinic: Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy:

This is one of the easiest pregnancy books to relate to, since it has 3 distinctive sections - pregnancy, childbirth and newborn. The first part guides you through every week of pregnancy, and tells you about the physical and psychological changes. The second part tells you about childbirth and gives you tips to care. The final part is about your newborn and how he gradually grows through infancy.

Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide:

This book not only gives you the progression of the mother and baby, but also writes about the right diet and exercises to follow. From medicated to natural birth, they write about things you ought to address soon. These are important aspects which most books don't cover. The last part of the book relates to the post pregnancy period, with guides that range from breastfeeding to poop-cleaning!

Belly Laughs: The Naked Truth About Pregnancy and Childbirth:

This book comes with a touch of humor to make your pregnancy and reading experience feel light. It communicates both bluntly and honestly, about the trail and turmoil of pregnancy. However, it doesn't have a structured pattern, so you might consider this as a downside.

The Pregnancy Countdown Book: Nine Months of Practical Tips, Useful Advice, and Uncensored Truths:

This book covers the journey of 280 days (average span of pregnancy) of pregnancy. It guides you through every milestone and tells you about the changes in your body. It stocks up great advice for both parents and is truthful at all level. One of the highlights is that they stress on the relationship of the partners, and their journey towards parenthood.

Mother of All Pregnancy Books:

This connects to you more like a friend, rather than being a biology guide! It tells you the truth wittily and empowers you to succeed through the journey. It also warns you about things to do and not to do, products to use and not to use, and other similar contexts.

What to Expect When You're Expecting, 4th Edition:

This book works when you can't call your doctor or have somebody to attend you. It gives you tips and tells you how to anticipate and go through the challenges of pregnancy.

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth:

This book is perfect for mothers going in for natural birth and also the ones who are scared to. It gives you details about why natural birth is way better than any other form. It distresses and lessens your fears, only to motive you for the better.

The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding:

This book specifically guides you through the process of breastfeeding. From aching breasts to pumping breast milk, you will have every aspect covered on this.